What He Really Wants For Valentine’s Day

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Being a singleton at the moment means I’m not really all that excited that the dreaded day of hearts and cupids is shortly going to be upon us. But I do know for those that are paired up, shopping for the man in your life can be a challenge. I remember the stress shopping for the perfect gift caused when I was in previous relationships. You want to give a token of love without coming across too strong that you are expecting a diamond ring (or maybe you are??)

My research for Valentine’s Day gifts yielded this great list by the husband of blogger, The Humbled Homemaker. Why not go directly to the source (a man) and get the real scoop.

http://thehumbledhomemaker.com/2015/01/valentines-day-gift-ideas-for-men.html#comment-1154873

Hope this makes your shopping easier!

What else would you add to this list? What gift did your man love?

Are You The Architect Of Your Own Life?

 

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In Chapter 1 of my book, Permission: Stop Competing & Start Creating the Life You Want to Live, I ask the reader if they are the “architect of your own life?” On the surface, it seems easy to say yes because you have checked the box on the work, the relationships and the dreams you have. But I would challenge you to probe a little deeper. Do you drive to work dreading your job? Are you in a relationship that is “fine” but not extraordinary? Just because there is nothing wrong in a relationship doesn’t mean everything is right. Are you just existing instead of thriving?

I realized that I was allowing my life to live me; which is why I found myself in a job I didn’t love, a relationship that felt like I was wearing a heavy emotional trench coat, and a life devoid of dreams. When I called my architect up for duty, things began to change. I found my voice, and with that voice came a power and internal authority that had long been missing.

Being the architect of your own life forces you to start living life, not just letting life live you. You have to be present, engaged, and always committed to a bigger cause – your personal happiness! I had to draft a blueprint, like every good architect, that illustrated what it was that I wanted to build. (Permission, Pg. 7)

Do you believe you are the architect of your own life? Do you feel present, engaged and committed to your personal happiness? Most importantly, do you feel like you live life or does life live you? Happiness is a destination only you can build.

Drop a comment below and let me know what you are doing to design the life you want to live!

30 Days of Unique Experiences

One of the highlights I will take away from 2014 is my personal 30-day challenge of doing something new and unique every day. I loved committed to taking time for recess every day for 30-days straight! I was able to learn, explore and create memories.

Here’s the final list of my 30-day journey:

1. Jumped high at a trampoline park

2. Played 18-holes of soccer golf

3. Learned to knit

4. Took a tour of the new San Diego Central Library

5. Explore Leo Carillo Historic Park

6. Took an aerial silk class

7. Took a new hike in Scripps Ranch

8. Learned archery

9. Visited the Butterfly Garden at the Water Conservation

10. Learned the business of flowers at Organic Elementa

11. Attended a domestic violence fundraiser

12. Learned how to ride a dirt bike

13. Visited the Meditation Garden at the Self-Reflection Center

14. Had a head massage

15. Hiked to the top of Canyon Hills Open Space

16. Took at pizza making class at Great News Cooking School

17. Volunteered at Homecoming at USD

18. Took a swing dancing class

19. Attended the Little Italy Festa

20. Walked over the suspension bridges in Banker’s Hill

21. Took time out to meditate

22. Attended the Pit Bull & Enrique Iglesias concert

23. Took at boxing class

24. Attended a single’s event by Match.com

25. Staffed the Vista Hill Gala

26. Visited a bird sanctuary

27. Took a fall cooking class at Pirch

28. Had lunch with my prom date

29. Attended a Court Appointed Special Advocate Informational Meeting

30. Took a police ride along – 10 hour shift

I can’t recommend enough committing to a 30-day challenge – it shakes life up in a fun and exciting way!

Back to School = Back to the Grind!

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The school bells are ringing again. Welcome to a new school year. Whether you are sending off your little one for the first time, are lamenting over the fact you now have a high school senior, or anything in between, with a new school year comes a new rhythm. If you are like most families, getting kids up and out the door is now as challenging as the schedule shuffle that takes place after school with all of the extracurricular activities kids participate in every week. Do any kids just come home after school and get time to play? No kids we know!

To help manage the craziness of the back to school grind, we offer these helpful tips:

1. It’s all about the schedule – get organized! Make sure everyone in the family has access to the same family schedule and you note every practice, game, performance, rehearsal, school nights, test dates and major projects. Don’t forget to add Mom and Dad’s schedules too. This will highlight any transportation challenges that might arise.

2. Get organized in the kitchen – after a long day at work, followed by the after-school shuffle of activities, the last thing you want to do is come home to the burden of deciding what you want to cook for dinner. Plan ahead with weekly menu planning and go old school – bring out your Crock Pot and let the cooking happen while you are away.

3. The dinner table is sacred space – put away your cell phones, turn off the tv and engage as a family. As a child, my parents created an environment where the time around the dinner table was the most memorable. It was a place where we could talk about our days, laugh at memories and talk about family issues. To this day, the whole family comes home to my parents house on Sunday nights for family dinner. It is a cherished tradition and provides a safe space where after all the running around and juggling of balls we do all week long, we know all is right with the world around the dinner table.

4.  The Rapid 15!  Make a game about getting organized for the next day. Set a timer for 15 minutes before bed time and challenge everyone in the family to get organized — all backpacks by the door, school clothes laid out for the next day, all sports bags and school lunches packed. You could make it a family competition and give points to the family member who can get organized in the rapid 15 the fastest.

5. Take time for you! I remember the days when my parents would actually drop us off at soccer practice and come back 2-hours later to pick us up. There was never a line of parents lined up on the sidelines just to watch our practice. Hello helicopter parents! I know my mom cherished that 2-hours she had while we were at practice; whether she ran to do errands, went home for free time or jammed to the gym to get in a workout, my mom took the time for herself. It’s perfectly fine to be the parent that just does the drop off and actually takes practice time to focus on you! Go for a run, take a yoga class, grab a coffee with a friend or just go home and enjoy the peace and quiet. We promise your soccer star is going to be just fine at practice without you watching every shot on goal!

What other tips have worked for you? We want to know! Share your tips in the comment box below!

 

Enjoy an Asian Experience!

As a Virtuoso Member and affiliate of Admiral Travel, The Henley Company is pleased to offer our clients the Ultimate Asian Experience. Ready to book?  Contact us at nicole@thehenleycompany.com

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An Intimate 50th Anniversary Celebration!

We recently had the opportunity to produce a very special 50th Anniversary Weekend for a client and her extended family. From enjoying VIP festivities on 4th of July at a San Diego Padres Game to an intimate celebration for 16 guests at the Birch Aquarium, we took care of every detail!

Together with San Diego’s best vendors, we produced a visual bounty for the eyes, and an event that yielded rave reviews from the client! Go Team Henley!

 

Photography:  Merima Helic Photography

 

Meet Ms. Henley…

With our new branding, comes the introduction of Ms. Henley….MsHenley_Final

 

Ms. Henley is the ambassador for The Henley Co. She is the magic behind the brand and she is a connoisseur of living the good life. She has her finger on the pulse for current events, unique experiences and creating a lifestyle, not just a life. When Ms. Henley gives her approval, she is endorsing a product or service of distinction.

Ms. Henley is your go-to girl. She is sophisticated, and super connected. She always knows what fun is going on, and you can always count on her to bring any event or task to the next level. She is your Wonder Woman who makes magic happen.

Ms. Henley is the extra set of hands everyone needs and their secret superhero. She is savvy and smart, poised and professional, impeccably fashionable and contemporary.

The Henley Co., through Ms. Henley, champions the spirit of its visionary founder, Nicole Matthews. The personality of Nicole is infused in this personification of the brand, and Ms. Henley represents the level of poise and creativity that everyone in the company aspires to.

Fans of the brand can spot Ms. Henley around town making magic happen. Be sure to follow her on all Henley Co. social media sites.

 

Twitter:       @henleyco

Instagram:   @mshenleyco

Web:              www.TheHenleyCompany.com

 

What can Ms. Henley do for you?

 

 

11 Meaningful Flowers For Earth Day & Why You Should Immediately Fill Your Home With Them

April 22nd is Earth Day! Take a minute to enjoy these beautiful mementos from nature and celebrate the day to give thanks to the earth! Wouldn’t you agree that flowers help to brighten up any room?

11 Meaningful Flowers For Earth Day & Why You Should Immediately Fill Your Home With Them.

Part 3: Take the Daze Out of the Holidays – Ms. Henley’s Guide to A Stress Free Holiday

Day 3 of our Take the Daze Out of the Holidays – Ms. Henley’s Guide To A Stress Free Holiday Season focuses on shopping. With the benefit of technology, making lists and having the ability to shop online just got easier.  We love Pinterest, so it’s not surprising we would incorporate a wish board into our Top-10 list.

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#4.         Pin:                                                                         

Make your shopping efforts easier this holiday season by creating a private Pinterest Board for your family. Task everyone with pinning their wish list to your board so that you have all of their wants, needs and desires in one easy location. Be sure to download the Pinterest App so you have the information at your fingertips. You can also go directly from the Pins to the website so you can order online.

Follow our Pinterest board at to check out our favorite things!

 

#3.         Shop:                                                                         

Tackle your shopping by being organized before you set foot in the mall. Create a gift-giving spreadsheet with the names of everyone you need to buy for and their current sizes. Keep a list as you buy that not only tracks who gets what, but also how much is being spent, what needs to be mailed and/or ordered on-line.

Helpful hint: Keep an envelope in your purse that keeps all of your receipts in one spot. Immediately, on the receipt, write the name of whom the gift is being given so that you have an easy record if a return is needed.

 

#2.         Eat:

Take the stress off of holiday meal planning by turning them into potlucks. Guests always ask, “what can we bring?” Now is the time to take them up on the offer. Also, create a meal-planning list so you have all of your recipes and shopping lists in one central location.

If you are the guest asking, “what can we bring?” you can decide on one-appetizer or one side dish that you are going to take to all holiday parties. Don’t stress over trying to get creative for every party. Buy ingredients in bulk so you have enough to make several dishes.

 

How is your holiday planning coming along? Let us know!

Part 1: Take the Daze Out of the Holidays – Ms. Henley’s Guide to a Stress Free Holiday Season

We recently had the pleasure of doing several in-home concierge parties, focused on helping clients to take the daze out of the holidays. It gave us an opportunity to present our Ms. Henley’s Guide to a Stress Free Holiday Season. Over the next few days, we will share with you a few of our top-10 list tips so you too can have a stress free holiday season! shopping_clipart

10.       Plan:                                                                           

The average woman spends 60-80 hours preparing for the holidays. This includes shopping, cooking, wrapping and attending events. Be strategic about navigating the holidays and make a plan early in the season. Plan time to bake, shop, write holiday cards, etc. so that you don’t feel crunched for time as the holidays get closer. Decide what can be delegated to your holiday elf!

9.         Commit:                                                                   

Remember what the reason is for the season! As a family, come up with 3 words that you want to signify your experience during the holidays. (i.e. Family, Joy & Peace). Post these words in a visible location so it continually stays top of mind. Before saying yes to any invitation, activity or commitment, make sure saying “yes” falls in line with your family values. Turn this into a new family tradition.

8.         Travel:                                                                    

If holiday travel is on your agenda; try these two tips:

  • Don’t let parking at the crowded airport cause you stress; instead call ahead and reserve your spot.
  • Sign up for Groupon, LivingSocial, etc. in the city where you are traveling. Offers great suggestions on fun and unique activities at a discounted price.

Check back tomorrow for tips #5 – #7 on the Top-10 List!

A woman should not measure her value by what gets crossed off her to-do list; but rather by the level of happiness in her heart, and the kind of wife, mother, sister and friend she becomes. Juggling lots of balls should be left to the circus acts – be a woman who values time over “to-do,” and commit to a lifestyle that focuses on unique experiences, family memory-making and sophisticated simplicity.  

Nicole Matthews, Lifestyle Architect
The Henley Co.